holidays

The energetic snow globe

snow globe

The holidays can be particularly challenging for introverts and empaths.

If you are exhausted by large groups or tend to pick up other people’s energy easily, parties can be a real drag.

Especially in the winter, most gatherings take place inside and it’s harder to justify stepping out for a few minutes if it’s 55 degrees.

As both an introvert and an empath, I am careful with my energy this time of year.

In case it’s helpful to you, here are my three best practices.

No more than two
Rule number one, I schedule no more than two high-social situations in a week. This doesn’t include one-on-ones (though I do limit those per week as well) or other general outings like the grocery store or eating out. This refers to parties and gatherings. Preferably the two are spread out over the week and I have downtime/recovery planned for afterward.

This also supports my practice of “increasing my tolerance for other people’s disappointment” when I have to decline social offers.

The bathroom is your friend
If you get overwhelmed in a party situation (or preferably before you get there), a 2 minute trip to the bathroom can be a life-saver. It might sound silly, but a quick break from the chatter, crowd, questions, awkward silence, etc. can make a huge difference. It moves your energy, and can be a great way to excuse yourself from, say, a political conversation (unless that’s your thing).

This goes nicely with the last tip…

Snow globe happy place
If you sense, intuit, take on or get wrapped up in other people’s energy easily, it’s really important to create an energetic boundary.

The fun thing about this time of year is you can throw a little holiday spirit into it! When I’m feeling a little leaky or I need to check in with myself, I’ll imagine that I’m in my own extra-special snow globe. Yes, it’s often in Central Park. And it’s snowing glitter. And it’s cozy and contained. Nothing unwanted is getting in!

Try it! The next time you need a stronger boundary in a situation, imagine yourself in your own personal snow globe. You get to decide who and what is in there with you :)

Wishing you all the things that make you happy this season.

Artwork by Cara Gregor, @caraemiliadesigns on IG

spread some cheer

A couple of years ago I had the idea to organize a group to sing carols at a local senior center. This time of year is loaded with baby memories and anniversary dates and ultimately incredible loss. It's also been my favorite season for as long as I can remember. So I wanted to get some of that magic back.

Singing that year at The Carlton brought tears to my eyes several times. As we caroled around the large community room, some residents were eating, some were watching and many were singing along.

The joy on the faces of those clapping and singing was akin to the innocence of a baby. Pure, luminescent delight.

I left feeling like I'd received far more than we'd given.

And this year, you have the opportunity to have that experience, too!

Please join the Holiday Hope Choir on Friday, December 15th. We will visit three different residences. You can come to one or all. 

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Holiday Hope Choir

Friday, December 15th

Join us in spreading some holiday cheer to those who might need a little lift this season by singing carols to senior center residents.

We will visit Pioneer House, Eskaton Monroe Lodge and Ivy House.

No singing skill necessary! We will provide song sheets.

See below for more information.

This is not a professional, you-must-be-a-good-singer kind of thing. You can even lip-sync if you want. It's about showing up for those who might need a little lift this time of year.

Please RSVP so I know how many song sheets to print.

Our three locations and times are:

1:30 pm at Pioneer House
415 P Street

3 pm at Eskaton Monroe Lodge
3225 Freeport Blvd

4 pm at Ivy Ridge
2030 23rd Street

Again, you can come to one or all. The more the merrier. Please let me know your plans. I'll send more details Wednesday the 13th.

Part of the magic of this time of year, whatever/however you celebrate, is that we receive tenfold by giving. This is an afternoon you will leave with an overflowing heart and a reminder of the true gift of the season.