Last week’s post on creating a bigger container seemed to resonate with many people. Grief and loss touch all our lives and remind us of our togetherness.

Related… for the past couple of months, a friend and I have been sitting together every morning at 7 am. “Together” is a loose term, since we live 15 miles from each other; a text check in lets us know the other is there.

Meditation is something I always mean to do and I’ve gone in and out of steady practice with it over the years. But getting it to stick again has been hard.

In Gretchen Rubin’s Tendencies model, I’m an Obliger — I stick to commitments best when there’s external accountability. (A large part of the population fall in this category.)

Admitting I need accountability is helpful because then I can set myself up to succeed. Like knowing a friend is expecting a text from the meditation cushion.

And, it’s more than that.

For me, this text-buddy arrangement is about more than the accountability piece — it’s about knowing that I’m not alone. And knowing I’m not alone helps me stay consistent, it encourages me to go deeper, it reminds me that there are “others” out there who I can call on.

We have hundreds of thousands of years of tribal memory in our DNA and only a couple hundred years of modern life, which has turned into an obsession with individualism. I feel a longing for connection — and deep relief when I get it — in my bones.

This is why I continue to put out invitations to you for ways to come together. Where we can share perspectives, question, listen, encourage. It’s easy to get caught up in life and forget how essential these moments of deep connection are.

Being together also helps expand the container.

So I ask you, gentle reader…
What are some helpful ways you have set up accountability for yourself?
How can you create support or community in your day/week for the things that *really* matter?

If you are looking for accountability, consistency, a like-minded group for practice, discussion and some time to take care of yourself this fall, consider one of my upcoming offerings.

I’d love to be together, in whatever form that takes.

If you have a story, a question or a comment, share it! Always love to hear from you!

With love,
Michelle

P.S. I apologize for the recent faulty link for the Fall Renewal.

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